From thoughts from a reader and sometimes participant on November 26, 2008 at 11:40 pm.  

I think that sometimes allowing a seemingly problematic conversation can be exactly what is needed to propel growth. I wouldn't get too discouraged over what seems to be problems. As long as the reminders toward gentleness are frequent, I say let some friction occur. It seems that often growth comes with friction, or that friction propels growth, or something of that sort. Bottom line, manure smells bad, but it grows better trees.